If I’m ever stupid or irrational or seem like I’m being too controlling, just slap me.
— Steve Jobs (via thatkindofwoman)
Great advice from my roommate. Something that I needed to hear.
I’ve always been the type of person who is nice to everyone, that’s just something I cannot change. However, that doesn’t mean I should let people walk all over me and allow them to disregard how they treat me. While I can be nice to someone, and in most cases I genuinely am, that doesn’t mean that person deserves it. I need to stop allowing people to walk over me and stop allowing them to treat me in a way that I don’t deserve to be treated.
I have a tendency to fix the things around me even if I’m not the one who breaks it. And I guess because of this new found clarity, I now just need to focus on what feels right to me. If you fucked something up, that’s on you. I’m choosing to move forward because that is the best thing for me right now. I can’t waste any more time going back to something I didn’t break and tending to you while you didn’t have that respect for me to begin with. I’m normally a forgiving person but if you cross me and fuck something up that bad, good luck trying to get me to trust you again.
— Kerry Washington (via theimperfectideal)
— Diane von Furstenberg (via h-o-r-n-g-r-y)
1. When your friends ask you to hangout, and you don’t feel like it, don’t go. Don’t ever do things halfway or do something that makes you uncomfortable. With everything, give all of yourself, even the pieces you never knew existed.
2. It is okay to not know. Everyone always despises the phrase, “I don’t know” but no one tells you that it is okay to not know. The becoming is more important than the being, anyways.
3. If someone ever makes you feel less, in any way, you have every right to walk away. You have every right to cut out toxic people in your life. To close the door on people who make you feel bad about who you are or what you stand for. Friends don’t tear down, they build up.
4. Loss is always going to happen. Just like paint will always chip and rain will always fall, loss will always be part of life. No matter how much I don’t like it, or avoid it, it is going to walk my way at several times in my life. Learn to embrace it and learn to get closure.
5. Give yourself a chance. Stop saying, “I don’t think I can” or “But what if I am not able to?” and give yourself a chance. This may be cliche, but try to believe in yourself. When you get older, your knees won’t work the same and you won’t have the best memory, and you are going to wish you’d given yourself a chance years sooner.
6. Fall in love. Don’t be guarded before you fall in love. You could fall in love three times and still not find the right one, but none of it is going to make “the one” matter less. Don’t fall into that idea that your first love has to be your best love. Fall in love as many times as it naturally happens.
7. Firsts are going to be messy. First loves, first kisses, first dates, first failed tests, first college class, first time you drive a car, first time you ride a plane - first times were made to be imperfect. Just because it’s messy and all over the place, doesn’t mean it can’t be good or worthwhile.
8. You want another scoop of ice-cream? Go get it. Get three more scoops of ice-cream if that is what you want. “Fat” is not the opposite of beautiful and it is not the opposite of happy. Don’t let anyone tell you that your body type isn’t beautiful. Beauty is a social construct, create your own, become your own.
9. Let yourself be alone. Loneliness is not a bad thing. It is healthy and normal. Everyone needs to spend a good portion of their life alone. We learn who we are when we are alone; life is less crowded and more clear when we are alone.
10. If you aren’t happy where you are, change it. Quit your job, move, become a vegetarian, get a new hobby, pick up an old hobby, whatever you do - make sure it benefits you. Life is too short to not be alive, to not be passionate, and overflowing.
relevant because I turn 20 in 7 days
— Wise words from my mom (via magicrobotgeography)
— Garrison Keillor (via travel-quotes)
— (via psych-facts)